Hello HOO People
Yes, Yes, Yes!! Its that time of month again where we gather together in the spirit of warmly, holding ourselves and our children. Creating a space to breathe out and take a load off!
Welcome back this time it is Wowweeeeee MAY!!!! This year is galloping ahead and I hope you are all having a more balanced year.
This week I was wondering if you could find an LGBT news clipping, article, video, finding, here in NZ or world wide that made you stop and think, scratch your head, sigh deeply, smile etc.
Lets talk about it, find some way or rationalising and challenging some of these ideas.
We will meet at the Rainbow Youth Centre – bring a packet of your favourite soup! Lets get snug and chat!
11 Edinburgh St, Entrance on Abby Street
C U There
Time for a catch up?
Time to see how we are all doing, catch up, shoot the breeze – it is time to plan for the year ahead.
I wanted to make note: Julia Groeneweg who is running our meet ups in Wellington has been amazing on our Face Book and we have also been getting a fair bit of communication and connection through Facebook. Thanks Julia I really appreciate the help and you are way better at it than I could ever be a huge hug!.
I have found that since Pride we had a fair bit of exposure and as a result I have had a number of calls from people here, far and wide to talk and consider their positions. It is remarkable and reassuring, how many people are so supportive, so educated and so in tune with their children and all they need is a little vote of encouragement.
I am very happy to remain a life line on line for these families who are finding their own path. I am also surprised at how many would like support groups and to meet with families going through the same. I encourage them all to open a HOO near them! I hope too that our little group will expand and grow.
Our meet up this month will be Wednesday 5th April ay 6:30 at
296 Ponsonby Rd
After a brilliant Pride Parade, warmly welcomed by Rainbow Youth, a wonderful support to Holding our Own. HOO had a felt proud walking with Rainbow Youth who are just awesome, THANKS RY for your support and inclusion you rock!
What a great Pride bigger, bolder, brighter and better than ever, it was great!!
At 6:30 till 8pm.
It will be a great time to catch up, connect and hopefully welcome some of our new members
FYI did an interview and spoke on RNZ with some very clued in people – take a listen
(Oh the SA accent is awful – do I really sound like that???)
Raising a Transgender Child in NZ – Teresa Cowie
that is enough entertainment for now see you next week!!
Lets get cracking and welcome in new families, reconnect, catch up and just generally get together! Please let me know if I will see you there
Hello Holding Our Own allies !!
Well, it is that time of year again and we are meeting to represent and support our children in the LGBTQAI community.
While our children are blessed enough to have the support they do, we recognise the ongoing journey and need for further change both in our country and the millions more around the world who do not benefit from the nurturing, safety and acceptance we are able to share. This march is a start to educating, to opening minds and celebrating achievements. It is done in a spirit where carnival becomes the starting place to share ideas and connect to discuss issues. Pride highlights the need to open conversations, reflect on differing opinions and perspectives and in a safe space hear the voices all around the world saying they will not be ignored, shoved aside or “fixed”!
Our children draw strength from our show of solidarity, our courage encourages others to reach out and stand tall for their children. We are the change that others speak about and standing as an ally is a choice that says we will not accept the discriminatory attitudes that place our children in danger, we will not accept homelessness, isolation, discrimination, depression, suicide for a lifestyle that is not a choice.
We stand together to support each other, to give our children a soft place to land when the world is cruel, to send the message that there is not only one right way, that life has many miracles and our children fit that description too.
I invite you to walk with us, as HOO represents the Parents, the whānau, siblings, friends, colleagues, the greater community that reflects the value of equality and inclusion.
We will walk with the Rainbow Youth – our greatest supporters
When: Saturday 25th Feb, 6pm – 10pm
Where: Ponsonby Road
What: Join and rep equality with HOO at the parade down Ponsonby Rd!
We will metal the starting point from 5:30pm on. Look for RY and you will find HOO as we will walk with
NB there WILL NOT be a group on the 1st of February it will be held on
the second Wednesday
8Th Of February at Rainbow Youth 6:30 – 8pm
We will get back, catch up have a cuppa and chat about Pride which is Auckland Pride Parade on Saturday 25th February on Ponsonby Road to K’ Road
This session will be in lieu of our March group session.
Pride is a peaceful fun happy way to have a voice and advocate for our children, This is our moment to show our support, offer a light to those who need it, show our children we are proud and out as allies – no shame, no secrets.
It is the positive stand against discrimination of LGBT, it promotes self-affirmation, dignity, equality rights, increases visibility as a social group, builds community, and celebrates sexual diversity. Pride, as opposed to shame and social stigma, is the predominant outlook that bolsters most LGBT rights movements throughout the world.
Joining, marching and supporting shows the world we are a community, that care and we are proud.
See you there
I know this is short notice but i have just returned and started recovering from an exhausting trip. I just wanted to say that WEDNESDAY is on and we have a confirmed guest speaker – Karen Ritchie
Karen worked with the New Zealand Prostitutes Collective and was a driving force behind Prostitution Law reform, which empowered sex workers to make safer decisions while working and encouraged them to get tested. She founded the Cartier Bereavement Trust, a charity offering direct financial assistance towards funeral costs for people who have died from AIDS. In addition to her work with NZAF’s Burnett Centre, she was known as the ‘Mother of K Rd’ by key members of the Karangahape Road community with whom she sustained a close relationship.
Karen Richie received an Honorary Life Membership
award in recognition by the NZAF of an outstanding contribution to the NZAF’s mission and is the highest award that the NZAF bestows. This honour may was bestowed on Karen Ritchie by the NZAF Trust Board
This signifies an outstanding contribution to the NZAF’s mission and results in the NZAF mission being substantially and positively enhanced by that contribution. It occurs over a significant period of time requiring substantial and commendable personal input. It involves service in particularly challenging environments and can be clearly documented and corroborated.
Karen is a very well known, well loved member of K’Rd she is a strong trusted voice in the community.
I look forward to hearing from her and I know that what she shares will be a great deal of value to us all
I look forward to seeing you on Wednesday at Rainbow Youth – 11 Edinburgh St, Auckland, entrance on Abbey street please be there by 6:45 so we can settle in and have a great evening together.
Any questions, please give me a ring on 021 125 7775
See you there
I am terribly sorry to cancel our October meeting but i will not be available due to my travels to South Africa.
I have however secured a wonderfully knowledgeable and very much loved member of our LGBT community. She is awesome and makes things happen she is a mum for the community who do not have one and she will be in to speak on the 2 November.
Please encourage family and friends to join us and lets start growing our lovely little group.
Short and sweet but indicative of the craziness i am dealing with right now!!
See you then
This month after a lovely brainstorm, we are changing things up a bit!!
We have some members of the LGBTQ community joining us for chat; they will share their experiences of being part of the LGBT community in NZ. It might be nice to understand the good, the positive and the challenging aspects of being LGBTQ in our country. Their perspective on world LGBT events and solidarity during those times. Also their experience of positive and difficult whanau relations.
It is a also time for a change of venue
This month we are heading to Cezanne Café they are open late and we need a fresh approach. I need to book a table so please let me know you are going to join us.
Cezanne Café – 296 Ponsonby Rd, Auckland 1011
7 September at – Wednesday
6:30 – 8:30
Radio NZ interview – follow the link –
Have a listen to David Levithan give his view of the Orlando shooting and ‘hate’ crime. He takes a look at Trump’s rhetoric. He talks about social change and how people sharing their stories of change
David Levithan talks about the Q in LGBTQ ‘queer’, or ‘questioning’, how LGBTQ+ ‘LGBTQ’ means identifying as queer and not wanting to label themselves.
He also talks a bit about the evolution of LGBTQ young adult literature with a number of amazing young queer writers who’ve written a variety of voices. It isn’t just the miserable story anymore.
(OffEASTERN INSTITUTE OF TECHNOLOGY | Te Aho a Māui | New Zealand – website – photo of Elizabeth Kerekere May 2013)
This resource is based on Elizabeth Kerekere’s 35 years of activism and her doctoral research on takatāpui identity and well-being. This was a valuable Māori resource packed with positive, useful information and outlook.
The term ‘takatāpui’ embraces all Māori with diverse gender identities and sexualities.
“Elizabeth Kerekere’s – TOP TAKATAPUI TIPS
- Takatāpui embraces all Māori with diverse gender identities and sexualities
- Being takatāpui is based on whakapapa, mana, identity and inclusion
- We all inherit our gender and sexuality from our ancestors – it is part of our wairua
- Takatāpui are part of the whānau – always have been, always will be
- Whānau don’t need to get it, they just need to be there
- Discrimination (transphobia, homophobia and biphobia) hurts all of our whānau
- Mana Wāhine is the platform for fighting discrimination against takatāpu
- Being takatāpui does not foster depression and suicide, discrimination does • Takatāpui identity proudly celebrates our unique Māori selves without apology or shame
- The takatāpui movement honours our ancestors, respects our elders, works closely with our peers and looks after our young people
- Takatāpui well-being rests within whānau, friends and Rainbow communities
- Takatāpui allies promote acceptance and challenge discrimination wherever it occurs”
She explains that “Whānau at our Best: It is the fundamental job of whānau to look after each other and especially their children and young people.”
Hongi – Ed Cocker (R) of Auckland is greeted by a Maori “HongI” before the National Rugby Sevens at Queenstown Recreation Ground on January 12, 2013 in Queenstown, New Zealand.(Jan. 11, 2013 – Source: Teaukura Moetaua/Getty Images AsiaPac)
Always Pflag – great site, great info www.pflag.org
A Note to My Kid – www.anotetomykid.org/ awesome responses, fab insights
David Leviathan on LGBTQ fiction for young adults – New York writer David Leviathan talks about LGBTQ young adult fiction since his first book Boy Meets Boy 13 years ago. http://www.radionz.co.nz/national/programmes/saturday/audio/201812042/david-levithan-lgbt-fiction
Takatapui, part of the whanau – https://www.mentalhealth.org.nz/assets/ResourceFinder/takatapui.pdf
Thanks Julia they are great especially the last one – really great!!!!